Yes, if you know me at all you know that I am a yes person. If someone asks me to do something I usually say yes right away. And often I feel overwhelmed because of all the yeses I have agreed to. This weekend my sisters say me down and told me that I need to start saying “NO!” That is just too hard. So I told them that I would compromise by telling people “I’ll think about it.” It’s a new skill so it will take time to master, but in the past few days, any time I tell someone that “I’ll think about it” rather than committing right away I feel an overwhelming sense of release. So, I thought of some other ways I can say “I’ll think about it” that might be helpful for any other yesers out there.
-Just No: “Thanks, I’ll have to pass on that.” (Say it, then shut up.)
-The Gracious No: “I really appreciate you asking me, but my time is already committed.”
-The “I’m Sorry” No: “I wish I could, but it’s just not going to work right now.”
-The “It’s Someone Else’s Decision” No: “I promised my husband (friend, etc.) I wouldn’t take on any more projects right now. I’m working on creating more balance in my life.”
-The “My Family is the Reason” No: “Thanks so much for the invite, that’s the day of my daughter’s Christening, and I will already be busy with setting up for the reception.”
-The “I Know Someone Else” No: “I just don’t have time right now. Let me recommend someone who may be able to help you.”
-The “I’m Already Booked” No: “I appreciate you thinking of me, but I’m afraid I’m already booked that day.”
-The “Setting Boundaries” No: “Let me tell you what I can do …” Then limit the commitment to what will be comfortable for you.
-The “Not No, But Not Yes” No: “Let me think about it, and I’ll get back to you.” (This is the one that I’ve been using the most- with GREAT results.)
How do YOU say no?